The Art Of Radiating Love

Episode 25: Top 10 Lessons Of 2024

This week on The Art of Radiating Love, I’m reflecting on the top 10 life-changing lessons I’ve learned in 2024—and trust me, these are lessons you’ll want to carry into your own personal growth journey.

From embracing authenticity to redefining confidence, I’m unpacking the wisdom this year has taught me about living with intention, aligning with your values, and being your own biggest cheerleader.

In this episode, I dive into the power of believing in yourself, the importance of setting boundaries to protect your energy, and why being “realistic” is all about your perspective. I’m also sharing how small shifts in mindset can bridge the gap between where you are now and the person you dream of becoming. Whether it’s redefining relationships, taking aligned action, or stepping into your power, these takeaways will inspire you to live more authentically, confidently, and joyfully.

If you’re ready to reflect on your own growth, learn new insights for self-development, and step into the healthiest, happiest version of yourself, this episode is for you. Let’s celebrate 2024’s lessons and use them to create an incredible future!

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Duration:: 1h 8m
Broadcast on:: 23 Jan 2025
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oh hello hello welcome back to another episode of the art of radiating love and happy new year it's currently first of january 2025 as i am recording episode 25 now that's such an amazing number okay so i'm actually recording episode 25 in the new year and yeah happy new year happy 2025 if you are listening to this and i'm telling you the moment i woke up this morning my energy was absolutely vibrant yes that's the energy that we are supposed to be carrying as we come into this new year so life update as usual so i actually did something that scared the hell out of me on the last day of 2020 4 and i felt very proud of myself for doing it so one of the things that i learned in 2024 is that i really really wanted to step out of my comfort zone just because i think i think right the the comfort zone thing is just like a ticking time bomb you know it's just like a ticking time bomb and i feel like you have to draw the line you know you have to draw the line there and just not let comfort zone stop you from being your desired self so yeah i just did something that i was really scared of and i'm just really proud of myself for doing that before coming into 2025 so i just feel absolutely amazing this new year so i feel like this is just fitting to start off the new year and yeah okay so other than that um other updates is that i'm actually thinking of using like a calorie deficit for my diet this year just because i actually had a quite a conversation about it with someone i knew yesterday and it kind of made me realize a lot of things now i think early uh somewhere in the middle of 2020 for somewhere in the middle of 2024 right um i met someone and this person told me that i was doing the wrong workouts in which i kind of know i have always known that i was doing the wrong workouts okay subconsciously but i never wanted to admit that i have been doing the the wrong workouts just because i felt comfortable doing the current workouts and transitioning to like a transitioning to like a different and more intense workout that i know is going to be effective it's kind of uncomfortable and it's gonna take up a lot of time energy effort just all the things that you know when you're starting something it's very hard to commit to it but i'm so glad i actually started doing workouts that actually are effective around November just to like smoothen ease up the transitions into 2025 because i have been doing those hard but effective workouts in 2024 for the since November it became easier coming into the new year and then it wasn't until the last day of 2024 where i finally understood the concept of calorie deficit i've always thought that as long as you workout workout a certain amount of time within a day or a week then you're good to go but then again after a conversation from yesterday i kind of realized that losing weight really does have a lot of things to do with um food and not just working out so i'm hurt i'm sure you have heard something of like um if you're not eating properly it doesn't matter how much you workout it wouldn't be as effective so yeah that's just something that i have been doing i have actually been trying to do it um today actually since it's the start of the year i figured why not just start off today right and then i actually downloaded this app and then so actually download like downloaded a fitness fitness um like a fitness app uh yeah and then they give you this what do you call net calories so as long as you don't eat over that amount of calories then you're good so i never really knew about this until the last day of until like today actually so that's something that i have been experimenting right now and i had a really huge realization after a research that i did yesterday so i actually did a research on chocolates just because i'm actually really curious how much calories is like one piece of chocolate and then i have always prided in myself for liking milk chocolate than the normal brown chocolate you know because it's not brown it's white and i assume that there's less calories in there but actually milk chocolate has more calories compared to the normal chocolate that we eat and compared to dark chocolate so i'm not sure i'm not entirely sure how do i feel about that but we'll see coming into the new year and other than that i have started a new book so it's actually a book called the game's gods play and that name is just fantastic like like the name itself just shows how amazing of a book it is and it is actually i'm actually like 10% in and i'm loving like the whole beginning like the story to it it has something to do with great gods of course of based on the name itself the game's gods play and then the main the main MMC is of course Hades himself i mean everyone loves Hades right despite him being the god of the underworld but we love him for a reason okay so other than that um yeah that's pretty that that's pretty much my life update and i'm just absolutely excited for 2025 okay so for today i just i didn't go out i just spent my entire day at home just doing what i usually do because obviously i'm not stopping in 2025 okay if anything i'm gonna try my best to do my my work um within lesser amount of time but more effective you know just because i think it it actually ties to the first lesson that i'll talk about today because the the the episode is as you can see based on the title itself it's top 10 lessons of 2024 so i'm over here wondering why didn't i make this episode um around the end of 2024 but you know i feel like since it's 2025 we want to bring in the lesson the wisdom and everything like like the great mindset i want to bring it to 2025 right like why not just do it on the first day of 2025 itself so like i said i'm not stopping and i'm gonna tell you why in the first lesson later so as usual i'll just talk about what i'm reading now i am so surprised that within these two weeks i have read so much but then at the same time i have not finished a lot of books so based on my last episode um i said that i have read i have finished reading the book of Israel i was reading a throne of broken gods in which i have actually already finished it and then i was reading a book called you are the happiness you see just because and like a very very famous influencer kind of recommended it's you know but after reading it honestly it kind of reminds me of the book the power of now it's just so i don't know it just feels like psychology you know like i feel like self development and psychology they are both very different genres like psychology is very in depth and it really takes up a lot of brain juice to really understand everything word by word and really retain the information okay so i'm not sure if i'm gonna continue with this book but we'll see okay like 20/25 one of my outs is reading books that i care like i don't really care about or i'm not enjoying life is too short to read books you are not enjoying okay so other than that i'm also i have finished reading the dawn of the curse queen and this is actually book tree from the book as well and i am devastated okay i'm absolutely devastated so here that the fourth book and the last book is it wait i don't think it's the last book i think it's the fourth book i think there are seven books in the series if i am not wrong okay i'm not here dropping wrong information i clearly just said if i'm not wrong okay um yeah so i finished that book and i did not like it as much as i like the first two books but the ending just really got me at the edge of my seat okay so i really wanted to know what happens next so basically there was there there's something that happened to the side slash main character and he's a side character but in my eyes just because i love that character so much okay i see it as like a main character okay so yeah so anyway i i am absolutely in love with this series and i can't wait for the book to come up next year in which it's coming out in a few months but in a few months that just takes up so much time and when it comes to books that i'm really looking forward to i absolutely do not have the patience like you have to understand that like like the series for the fourth wing the imperial series it took us such a long time to finally be in the month where the third book on next storm is going to release and that is going to be my next read for this month and i'm so glad i actually have five days off during the end of this month to celebrate the chinese new year and i'm gonna spend those five days reading on next storm okay but i think i i think it would have been out by that time okay so other than spending chinese new year i'm gonna binge on next storm however much i can just because i already do not uh i don't read as much as i used to in the past like last year the past two years or like earlier this year just because i have my life together and i actually have something that i care enough about doing that i want to do okay so that's my my that's why my reading time has been cut down by a lot but i'm not complaining all right i can read anytime i want but there are things that are in priority right now and yeah i'm just so thankful that on next storm is coming out at that time okay so yeah i feel like i'm just gonna rave about it for 10 minutes straight before i start another episode okay for when when when on next storm comes out i mean oh my gosh book two's cliffhanger is absolutely insane i do not okay anyway i have read uh and have also finished reading blood oath now this series just oh my god i love blood oath so much the book by morgan the author is called morgan something and i i gave it 4.5 out of 5 stars just because i actually haven't read a reverse reverse harem in such a long time the last time i read it it was probably two years ago or last year i'm not sure it has been forever since i last read it and i was craving for another romant to see after finishing the dawn of the curse queen but i did not feel like reading like the normal romant to see you know because i always have this scarcity mindset when it comes to books like my mind is always like i have read so many amazing books and there's nothing good left for me okay but but but the gosh the thing is this is also a fantasy romance book but it's reverse harem which is if if you don't know what is that basically there are more than there's more than one love interest yeah so it is what it is okay and then i have started another book which is related to my profession because i teach english and i actually started this book called 49 ESL activities and games and i'm not saying i'm loving it i'm just trying to consume content that benefits my career because you know you have to consume knowledge from outside sources you know if you want to be steps ahead of people if you want to really thrive in your expertise and besides i love learning so why not right and other than that so i have also read shadow heart which is the second book of the what's the series called again um it's called the curse legacy series so book one is blood old after reading that book for two days i immediately binge shadow heart i read that for three days absolutely loved it loved it more than i loved blood old and then i read twisted lies i finished that book in three days and i absolutely loved it too and then i believe there is one more book that's coming out sometime next year in april if i'm not wrong and gosh april is four months away i don't know how am i gonna operate while the book is in the midst of releasing but it is what it is i can just wait right and then because i couldn't get enough of romaine to see i decided to read the game's god's play so i found this on tiktok okay i found it on tiktok and i'm actually i'm like absolutely loving it i loved it so much that i don't even know how to properly pronounce words anymore just because anyway and then since it's the new year i'm starting new 365 meditation books so for 2024 i actually read three daily meditations books so it's basically like a what you have to do is you read one page a day and within that page itself there's so much value in it so it's like there's always going to be a date on top like they'll say january first and then there's like a whole passage within the page itself okay so that's that's basically how 365 meditations work okay so for 10.24 i actually read the pivot year by briana we use but an amazing book i feel like i'm gonna reread it some time down in the years and then i have read the one by demi lo vato she actually wrote a daily meditation book two so i finished that and that is not as complicated to comprehend so quite a good book okay and then i have read robert green's the daily laws amazing book too but it takes up quite some brain juice to really comprehend his book so yeah for this year in 2025 i'm gonna read simple abundance then i'm gonna read the book of awakening and third book i'm gonna read the language of letting go so it's like three books and i'm gonna read three pages each morning before i start my day so that's non-negotiable uh non-negotiable okay um i have been doing this since 2020 too i believe and i'm loving it and i'm not stopping in this year so there's that other than that things i'm loving i'm just loving meaningful conversation so recently i have been i have a meaningful conversation with someone i knew and it just made me realize that i value so much of conversations that are so valuable and are filled with value you know and being involved in conversations like these made me realize that i really value conversations of value and it uplifts me it uplifts me it gives me energy it makes me feel uplifted amazing for the rest of the day and it's like you know those times where you have conversations that makes you really think about the values that came with it that's the right conversation and those are the people that you should really keep close in your circle just because the exchange of knowledge and learning that comes with it is just exceptional okay so other than that i'm also loving doing things that scare me so i did say that um recently i have done something that scared me just to put myself in somewhere out of my comfort zone because you can't wait to be confident you will wait forever if you do wait like that so you have to put like intentionally put yourself in those kind of situations that's where the growth happens that's where the magic happens and i'm not stopping in 2025 i'm gonna put myself in situations that scare the hell out of me and i will say yes and i'll think about the consequences later but as long as it i know it benefits me i'm gonna say yes despite knowing that i might regret it later just because i'm scared you know and no i'm not gonna let fear dictate what i can or cannot do no more of that in 2025 other than that i'm this just really ties back to what i said just now about confidence now i have really recently learned that you cannot wait to be confident you will wait forever so you have to do yourself the favor and be confident and not wait for it so other than that one i'm grateful for i'm just grateful for being able to see 2025 feel like this is gonna be a year of magic there's so much goals and dreams to chase so many things to learn with them to extract from problems to solve but i know i'm well equipped enough and resilient to go through it so i'm so ready for 2025 like bring it on hurl it at me i know i'm gonna come out of it like a whole new person so other than that i'm also really grateful for the work that i do the the people i work for i just feel so in alignment working like doing the work that i do right now and i'm not stopping anytime soon so yeah let's just head on into the podcast topic so i'm gonna talk about the top 10 lessons of 2024 very profound lessons actually that have really changed the person i am and i'm gonna bring them into the new year and yeah so the first lesson um okay i think i will just start off from the tent okay i have actually ranked them one to ten um but i'll just go through each of them okay from the last one all the way to the first one let's say there's actually 10 here hold on uh-huh uh-huh so before we start i just wanted to mention that i have actually made an instagram reel that is titled the top 10 lessons um yeah so it's actually titled the 10 things i've learned in 2020 or so do check that post do check that reel out and give it a like okay to show your support to let me know that you came from the pod all right so yeah i just wanted to talk about them just because they are so meaningful to me so before 2020 if i came like during the last week of 2024 actually sat down and wrote down the top 10 things i've learned this year and honestly frankly speaking it was very hard to rank them and to really choose 10 you know it's really hard to choose only 10 the reason is because i felt like after 2024 with everything that i have gone through i felt like a whole new person okay with all the lessons that i have learned and it's not just 10 you know so the fact that i have to resort down to 10 it's absolutely madness and i have so many thoughts about these 10 alone then yeah i just have so many thoughts about them okay so i wanted to talk about them in that right so coming from number 10 the 10 lesson that i have learned in 2024 is that you are your best life coach everything else is unmatched the reason is because everyone is so uniquely different no two people are the same we all have very different thoughts mindsets we have different traumas insecurities the things that we like we don't kind of person we are and just everything our perspective in life you know so absolutely no one knows you more than you do and it's always going to be unmatched like even the people closest to you like even your parents don't know you as much as you know yourself so for that reason right whatever you do follow your heart follow your head because from those two places alone you will get all the information you need to build the best life that you can so it doesn't matter how much self-development content you consume right you will always be your best life coach period that's a fact and that's something that i really stand by okay that's something that i will stand my ground on so yeah whatever you do no one knows you better than you do so doesn't matter what you do you should be the decider of it just because you are the creator of your own life right so yeah that's the tent and then the ninth is making choices and taking actions that align with your core values bring clarity to the life you've wished for your whole life helping you live authentically so recently i actually had a conversation a very valuable conversation with someone so this person we talked about the values and how it decides our decisions whether if we decide something in a heartbeat or have a dilemma on something and how do people make decisions like why is it that some people are so content with what they decide and some people are so resentful in their own decisions so let's say for example two people can have the same values but we can both rank them differently and it's the drive to every kind of decision we make so i have mentioned this before but i will mention it again based on an example let's say for example we have got person a and b right person a and b so this these two people they are going to work overtime okay and person a says no i don't want to work overtime so the reason is because this person wants to go back home to their family this person wants to go for a dinner with their family and they wouldn't miss that for the world they wouldn't miss that for working overtime despite knowing that this person will get the money if the person works overtime but because this person's value family comes first above word that's why this person decides to go home and have dinner instead you know of working overtime whereas for person b this person b just says yes in a heartbeat this person works overtime in a heartbeat for several reasons maybe this person just values their career their work is above their family that's why they said yes in a heartbeat just because they know that they will be able to learn a lot from it or maybe this person values money right so when you work overtime in most cases you will get paid and maybe this person knows that this person will get paid person b will get paid that's why this person said yes in a heartbeat so there's really no right or wrong it just really depends on what kind of values you value more than the other so let's say for example if you are person a you value family but you still take the overtime anyway so that's that means that what it means is that this person a is not living within his or her own authenticity and that's not the kind of life I want to have okay yesterday I was asked some questions that will present me with opportunities of a lifetime now because of my values I didn't hesitate to reject it despite knowing that it's an amazing opportunity and for outsiders view they might say something like oh why didn't you accept it that's such an amazing opportunity you're going to regret it if it's me if it were if I were you I would say yes in a heartbeat now I can say yes I can say yes but saying yes would result me into living in resentment I wouldn't feel fulfilled if I am to spend my time on this thing that might benefit me in terms of money wise but fulfillment for fulfillment wise probably not so yeah and that's just something that I have been doing this year for scenarios like this there are many things that I can easily reject without having dilemma on it or thinking so long about it but let's say for example in cases where you have two values that are sitting side by side fighting for a place on that rank in cases like that you will really have like a massive dilemma and that's why people couldn't make decisions from it and that's why they take such a long time to really think it true and even then when they make the decision by the time it's time for them to make the decision they wouldn't have known like the decision still doesn't ring true for them just because both of those values they are fighting for a spot up there so what this person has to do is decide anyway even if it wasn't the top choice or the most desired choice right so yeah whenever possible it's not to say whenever possible or not it doesn't matter what it is you have to make choices based on your value because that's your most authentic self-making decisions that's you making decisions that you will not regret that's also you making decisions that you will be proud of that you will thank yourself for that when you are finally doing the work the the work based on what you have decided earlier you wouldn't hold resentment for yourself and other people around you and you wouldn't project your resentment to the people you are working with you know so it's very important and this is something that I have learned this year I feel like subconsciously I have known it for a long time but to really unpack it and clear my thoughts on it I can see it really clearly now that for every decision that I have made in my life it might not make sense to other people but it makes sense to me because I made that choice based on my values right so let's say for example for other people if if let's say for example this value they rank I rank it the first but they rank it the third or the fourth so they wouldn't understand why did I make that choice you know just because in their eyes it's not something that they perceive as it's very important but in my eyes it's my top priority and it makes sense for me to choose that thing so there's that so this is something this is also a lesson that I will bring into the new year just because it's helped me operate in my most authentic self so there's that and then the eighth lesson is the idea of realistic right is different for everyone I didn't know this for a long time until I watch a video and then that's when the realization hits everyone can have a very different realistic idea let's say for example if you spend a lot of time with people that have the same idea of realistic and let's say for example if you decide to dream bigger or go after goals that technically might look crazy to the average but in your eyes it's realistic it makes sense to you but because other people have different ideas of realistic right they wouldn't be able to understand they might even say that you are crazy you're a madness and you're insane and such so the idea of realistic is truly different for everyone like especially for business owners their idea of realistic is way different compared to a person that just settles with whatever job they have the the person that traces after their dreams right their idea of realistic is different compared to the masses the average people that just stay where they are just because they're comfortable and they are too afraid of going after what they actually want so it's different for everyone and because it's different for everyone right you shouldn't ever listen to other people's idea of realistic because that's just you self sabotaging yourself and it's going to put limiting beliefs in your mind and it's obviously going to sabotage your plans you might think twice on it when you're actually on the way to achieving those things in the first place so be careful with who you surround yourself with and what you decide to consume and who's advice you decide to listen right so from my case i don't listen to everyone's advice i only listen to people's advice that i admire that i respect that i really want to be like just because i feel like it's a very important thing to do especially if you're doing unconventional things things that the average might not understand so there's that and then the seventh lesson is you have healed too much not to raise the bar on who gets access to your energy now this really goes back to a lot on worth i believe so like i said you have healed too much not to raise the bar on who gets access to your energy so for example if you're the kind of person right if you're the kind of person that if you are the kind of person that really takes a lot of time to work on yourself work on your inner self you work hard to alter your mindset in a way that it's healthy and benefits you you alter your mindset in a way that helps you helps bring you to bring you from your current self to your desired self if you're the kind of person that make sure you are responsible for your own healing right and for yourself development don't you think you actually deserve friends and people in your life that are doing the same as you do this is something that really challenge my view really challenge many things that i believe in because i once never knew this like it's true right if you put so much work in yourself why would you surround yourself with people who are below your bare minimum standards why would you go back on your word and be friend with insecure people allow people to just have access into your life like allow them to even walk all over you so that's absolutely insane the more that i think about it so right now i have completely set very strict boundaries when it comes to allowing people to access my energy just because in 2024 i have really come to understand that my energy is super super sacred and i'm not supposed to just fully freely give it to anyone you know because if not right by the end of the day the moment i come back from what i'm what what i am doing i would feel absolutely drained and miserable just because i allowed myself to spend time with the people that don't align with me and just because they asked me to and just because i felt like it was the right thing just because i felt like people pleasing like that is absolutely insane and that's just absolutely selfless in the negative way and i don't want to do that this year so there's that and then um other than other than that it's not just meeting up with people and such like even true texting or like even true texting the group chat like if i know it's about conversations that will drain me that people are just complaining complaining maybe they're insecure they don't have a purpose maybe they're just i don't know figuring things out not absolutely 100% sure of something it's not to say that they're bad people it's just that i respect myself way too much and i have worked on myself way too much to allow people to just allow people to just take up my time you know so yeah and that's something that i really want to be intentional about this year and yeah another thing is the sixth lesson is that if you want to bridge the gap between your currents and desire itself you have to be her right now at this very second as we speak so i have made the absolute mistake of thinking that um i have made the mistake of thinking that i have to wait for her to come you know wait for myself to come like wait for myself to be ready but i couldn't have been more wrong and it's absolutely insane now that i think about it right you you will never have a time in your life where you are 100% ready right so you have to take the initiative to just do it and decide to be confident decide to be the person that you have wished for your whole life to be and there's never gonna be a time where you're ready so you just have to do it all right and you will thank your younger self for it's your future self will thank you your future self will be super thankful for you and then you're in the future your younger self would be super proud and super thankful for you doing these favors for her so please just be her as we speak she's nothing if you're not taking the action if you're not actioning she's nothing okay by the way i absolutely apologize for the weird sound from the background my mom is actually um hair drying her hair um yeah as she should but i apologize if the audio quality is not as good as before um so the fifth thing is this one is a really huge one that even dedicated a whole blog post to it okay and i actually shed tears the only time i cried was when i realized this lesson romantic relationships are not priced let me say it again just for you to register it romantic relationships are not the price the day i realized this actually actually dedicated a whole blog post to it i even dedicated a whole podcast episode to it so it's actually in episode 20 you can listen to that if you want me to talk about it more in depth but since we're in this episode let me just talk about it for a little bit the day i realized this right it was actually on the day when i couldn't sleep for some reason and i actually cried at 2 a.m when i realized that romantic relationships are not the price the reason is because i spent my whole life a decade actually seeking male validation and it's so crazy to finally say that out because for my whole life i was never able to really say it though deep inside it has always been like that but the fact that i'm able to finally say it out just makes me really proud of the person i am today it just goes to show how much i have changed ever since then yeah there's just so much to life than just romance you know and yeah i i think this is for a lot of people as well especially for the younger me i have always wanted like a partner a partner in crime just because i like the idea of having two people so like having two people together becoming a powerhouse together becoming partner in crimes going through every kind of hurdle together figuring things out together building a whole life together you know that is one of the greatest things that life can offer to you but when you are not having that thing when you're when you don't have that right now you shouldn't aspire to have that every day of your life like right now that i think about it i absolutely love love but i don't love it until the fact that i wanted so much that i am starting to lose myself you know the best days of your life are the days where you get to spend your time in solitude because who knows you might meet your partner tomorrow and then you wouldn't ever be able to experience singlehood ever again there's just so much so much to life and i wish people could see that you know i used to pride myself so much in my hyper independence and in a way i felt like it has restricted me from one of life's greatest blessings you know i want that kind of blessing in my life but right now i'm finally beginning to understand that i'm actually worthy of a long lasting happy and healthy relationship but i want it for myself and it doesn't mean that i'm going to actively chase after it right now my mind is like with whoever i'm gonna meet i'm going to approach it all with detachment and yeah it's just that i have spent decades longing for a romantic love like that and i said that from a scarcity mindset but it's not to say that if it does come someday i i if it comes but it's not to say that if the day does come where this high value man comes into my life i wouldn't i wouldn't not allow myself to experience life with this person right now my mind is like should i stay in my single girlhood it will be because i choose this lifestyle for myself and because i genuinely believe that it's what i want most okay i also wanted to make it clear that doesn't matter what i choose all right if it's just me on my own or with that person whoever it is i just wanted to mention that at the end of the day i always have me and because of that it makes everything okay and complete regardless if i'm in a relationship or not i am very well aware that romantic relationships this is one of the best things life can offer you but if i don't have that i'm totally okay with it because i have me i have a whole world that i have built for myself so regardless if i have it or not is i do have it and somehow something happened and we don't break out it's totally fine because i always have a home have a world to come back to because i have spent so much of my time to build something that absolutely no one can take away from me and i'm really proud of myself for it so like i said again want to make it clear that regardless of how it turns out with or without someone like that i'm totally okay i'm totally whole and fulfilled with my own and i love my life where it is right now and because i spent so much of my time chasing after my goals and dreams i'm absolutely okay with or without and yeah because like i said romantic relationships are not the price the price is you and it will always be even if you are in a relationship someday you are still the price not that person so the first thing is that this is something that i have really really learn the hard way and something that took me a really long time to really understand is that people can only meet you as far as they've met themselves it doesn't matter how much things you have said how much you have tried to advise how much you have tried helping someone if they don't want to be helped then that's out of your hands you can only do what you can do and i read this from the book the courage to be disliked there's this concept about separation of tasks okay separation of tasks and whatever they're going through that's all of them the only thing you can do is even if you have given them the advice and if they don't want to take it that's on them like i said separation of tasks the only thing you can do is if something does happen to them you're going through an adversity the only thing you can do is be there to support them that's it like i said people can only meet you as far as they've met themselves if you're talking to a person that hasn't done the inner work you're talking to a person that's that has low self steam projects their insecurities at you if you remind yourself this that people can only meet you as far as they've met themselves you wouldn't take their reactions personally and i feel like that is a massive tool that everyone should be honing and aware of because realizing this has truly benefited me in so many ways yeah i will bring this in 20 or will bring this into 2025 and then the other thing is the third thing is confidence stems from doing the action regardless if you're motivated you will always have the feeling you will always feel unmotivated not feeling like doing something and that's hard if it's easy everyone would have would be doing it already but i feel like it's a very admirable and respectable and remarkable thing to be able to watch someone to stay so disciplined regardless of how they feel that they and the fact that they still show up consistently with discipline with determination because their why is so strong the reason why people can do this is because they have such a profound why behind it which makes it such an admirable treat and that's what drives them to show up consistently and upon watching people doing that i want to be like that as well and i can confidently say this with confidence that i am that person and i'm really proud of myself for it lesson number two that i've learned in 2024 is that when you believe in yourself you can achieve absolutely anything this is a hundred percent fact you will have days where you don't want to do it or you will have no time to do it or you will just give yourself a hundred and one excuses as to not do it okay there are a lot of people out there that want something but they don't believe that they can get it and that's a one-way road to failure to not getting the thing that you want the number one drive to really get what you want is to truly believe in yourself that you are going to get it no matter the circumstance no matter how you're gonna get it you are gonna get it because you know you will get it okay the number one lesson that i have learned in 2024 is that time is unrenewable i have written this in uh i have written about this time is unrenewable in in a very in a very extensive way okay um yeah so back to the part where i mentioned time is unrenewable this is something that shocks me when i realized that people know this but at the same time they don't know it it's like they know this but they don't like the actions they do it doesn't align to the fact that they know it you know it's like you know something but you're not taking the action to not do it when you know something it's not good for you so everyone in the world knows that time spent you can't get it back it's not like money right you spend the money you can earn it back money is like that time is not so let's say you wasted five minutes scrolling on TikTok that five minutes will be gone you can't replace that five minutes again you will wake up you will go about your day and those five minutes are absolutely gone okay it's insane how people know this but they don't but at the same time they act like they don't know about it so apart realizing this right ever since do they i realize this part everything that i do i make sure it matters to me like honestly i think that spending eight hours doing work that simply mean nothing to you is an absolute waste of life like in my opinion scrolling five minutes and not getting value from it it's already a waste of life imagine working a day for eight hours doing work that you absolutely do not care about that drains you that just doesn't fulfill you all because of money and i understand why people do that i used to do that myself until i realized that i cannot deal with that anymore so but today i'm so glad to be able to do the work that i generally care about if it wasn't if it's not because of that i don't think i would feel fulfilled or have the time to truly discover more of myself and such yeah time is unrenewable so make sure you spend your time intentionally so yeah these are the 10 lessons i've learned in 2024 so these lessons actually mean a lot to me just because for all of these lessons i have learned them in a very emotional way and it wasn't really easy upon realization and some for some of them incorporating them is hard like and sometimes i wonder why they take me so long to realize this i'm so glad that i have these lessons now it makes me more well equipped to deal with adversities or hurdles or obstacles that are you know tossed my way and i'm just so grateful for the content i consume for the podcast the books the videos i've watched articles that i've read people that i spoke to that provide value that helped me become more aware of myself that helped me in myself discovery in any way so i'm just so grateful for 2024 and i can't wait for the lessons that 2025 will bring me so yeah so as usual before we end any kind of episode here's the task for you to implement what you have learned today so first things first this is about um looking back to move forward so you can get a piece of paper maybe like a tissue paper or just anything that you can write on pull up a google docs your notes app just reflect on the three biggest lessons you have learned in 2024 so in my case i talked about 10 and if i am to narrow it down to three i it will be absolutely difficult so i understand if you don't want to just narrow it down into three if you want to narrow it down to 10 if you have that much of lessons you have learned or wisdom you have learned you can you can narrow it down to 10 if you want to if you can if you're able to you can even narrow it down to three so whatever works with you okay so yeah just reflect on your biggest lessons so how the next thing that i want you to think about is how can you apply these lessons in your to your personal growth relationships or career or just any kind of value that is important to you in 2025 so the second thing is this is um from challenges to triumph so what was the most challenging moment of 2024 and how did it shape you okay this is just one okay now you need to narrow it down to one okay so i don't know how you're gonna do it but you have to find a way to narrow it down to one okay or if you want to narrow it down to three it's up to you okay so write about how you can carry the strength and resilience you gain into 2025 to tackle these new challenges okay that's the second and the third thing i want you to think about is now you can think of this as a way for you to plant seeds for the future so think about one habit or mindset or a belief you adopted in 2024 that positively impacted your life now this has a lot to do with the mind and the actioning like for the habits is the actioning the mindset or belief that one has something to do with your mind like the way you think okay so how will you nurture this growth in 2025 to create and even to create even more opportunities for success and happiness so do let me know what did you journal about you can write it you can send me at the end okay you can send me at the end on my instagram the podcast instagram at the art of radiating love all right so i'm really excited to see what do you think or you can even comment down on the instagram reel for this post so the post is called okay the the the shorts the ij reel is called 10 things i've learned in 2024 you can comment there then at the same time let me know you came from the pod right so yeah as usual we're gonna end it with three affirmations no this time i want to end it with five affirmations just because there is another two affirmations that are just so empowering it's so empowering and it would be a real shame not to include it in here all right so as usual you can just read the affirmations with me and do truly fill it with the new okay so first thing is i'm ready to embrace new opportunities and challenges with courage and confidence great doing amazing okay number two the lessons i've learned in 2024 have prepared me for a thriving and successful 2025 okay number three i release all doubts and step boldly into the year ahead trusting in my strength and resilience okay so number four this is a good one now 10 2025 is my year of alignment fulfillment and endless possibilities okay number five i am unstoppable and 10 2025 is my time to shine yeah okay so actually um i'm actually wondering what are you guys and themes for 2025 the reason why i added the fifth one is because of the word unstoppable now unstoppable is actually my theme for this year i actually have a theme for every year ever since 2022 and as each year goes by the theme gets more and more strong meaningful powerful empowering i just love my theme for 2025 and i'm so ready to embrace this theme and use it in whatever possible scenario so yeah do follow my podcast instagram account at the art of radiating love shoot me at the end to let me know you came from the podcast what do you think of today's episode and i can't wait to see you there so 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