Having boundaries will help your child navigate their world and give them an understanding of how they can easily meet those expectations. Boundaries are essentially understanding and respecting the needs of others and today, I am talking specifically about your boundaries as their parent.

First, you have to decide what your goal is for setting boundaries. What is the outcome that you are hoping to achieve by setting the boundaries?

You want to make sure that the boundaries have positive outcomes/rewards when they are followed. Positive reinforcement is such a powerful strategy with our kids. Our goal is always to help them begin to understand the cause and effect from the boundaries.

When you are establishing new boundaries and following through with them, it is a process and I promise you, they will struggle.  By following thru and doing what you say and adhering to the boundaries you have set time and time again, they will eventually grasp the concept and it WILL get easier but you have to commit to being consistent AND you have to be prepared and anticipate that it will get harder before it gets easier.

We want them to understand that the boundaries are to help them learn to control their emotional responses in a more appropriate manner, to understand that in life, they won’t always get what they want and that every one of us, as human beings, all have boundaries that we have to follow in life.

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