On this episode, Chris & Koi call some friends to findout why women ask their man if they can ask them a question instead of just asking the question.
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Can I Ask You A Question?
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Shoot me an email, Chris at MandoNo.com or hop on the MandoNo.com website and shoot me a message. Koi and my guy. How are we living? What's going on? Not much, man. Shilling question of the day. How's the mic sounding good? Good. Okay. Question of the day. Why do women say can I ask you a question before they ask you a question? Oh, wow. I mean, it's just like the idea of... I feel like the idea of like... Like, can you ask me, can I ask you a question? It's like, oh, God, fuck, here we go. You know, I was, you know, I'm not asking friends about this and stuff like that. I didn't know it was a thing until I heard someone say it was a thing. And I was like, this can't be a thing. Like, why don't they just ask the question? But apparently it's a thing. And then when we went and grabbed some drinks, found out that women actually really knew this. And I was like, why? And, you know, a couple of different answers. They said in third, but I figured we would just... Yeah. I figured we would just hop on the lines, call some people up and see what they had to say. Maybe giving him a second togethers his good thoughts. But why? Correct. I don't even... I think it's a soft and a blow because... Why? Soft and what blow? Because, let's say she's about to ask like a crazy question or whatever and it comes out of left field. If you say, can I ask you a question? It might help prepare for that. Yeah. You can't prepare me for the foolishness that you're about to do. You're gonna ask girls about it. 100% of that's what I'm about to do right now. Yeah. Kayla. Hey. How are we doing? Doing all right. How are you? Good. How's party at three doing? Oh, we're doing. We're exhausted, but we're doing. Okay. I like it. I like it. All right. Maddie. I'm here with koi koi. Say what's up, Maddie. Maddie. What's up? What's going on? Good. Well, technically she's party at two until the back. Okay. But she's party at two. Oh, he's home. He's just in the shower. Oh, yeah. Nice. Hell yeah. Early. I like it. We got baby class. All right. Let's get this question out of the road. Let me ask you this. Why do women? I don't. I don't know if you do this, but I hope. I hope you wouldn't, but why do women ask their man? Can I ask you a question? No one we have. We cannot do anything but say yes. Okay. Okay. I think I have been a couple of these. I've gotten better about it. But I am very guilty of it. Wow. I think it's in our way, like girl talk. When it's just a girl, there's no problem. We kind of just banter back and forth and be expected of each other. Yeah. But we've got eyes. First of all, you guys don't like confrontation. I mean, I don't know anybody that does. Thank you. Yeah. However, it's one of those questions just like, can I ask you a question? Are you ready to have a baby? We're kind of like prepping ourselves and prepping you to ask these questions. It's not just like, hey babe, you want a sandwich? It's kind of like, hey, can I ask you a quick question? That means it's too about something serious. It's kind of another way to say it. Yeah. Yeah. Someone tells me it's not so quick as the question says. Never is, never is. I need your full attention. Put your phone down. You know, pause the TV. Stop whatever you're doing. I need 100% from you because this is serious to me. And it can be a yes or no? Elaborate. No, it can be a yes or no. Like, a bit generally, if it starts with yes or no, it's going to be a longer conversation. It's not just going to be, you will do one day? Yeah. Okay. And that's it. Are you sure? Is it with me? Is it with me? Like, what are you talking about? Are we all there? Like, do you ever want to be married? Do you ever want to do it? It always goes into like this deeper, you know, question that women want to know because, I mean, I don't generally do it now that we're married. And I know him, like, the back of my hand and he knows me. I just kind of, and he's like, what? I'm like, nothing. And then he just told you say it. And I'm like, okay, I blurked my shit out. But, like, when we were dating, I was asking him these questions. Like, hey, I have a question for you. And he's like, okay, turns this theater desk completely around. You know, do you see us getting married one day? Do you see us that we were comfortable enough that it wasn't weird? However, there are some relationships where it's just kind of like, can I ask you a question? And what did the guy do? Oh, God. What now? Here we go. Here we go. Time to get on this road. No game. Yeah, I'm having a great day. What kind of fucking question are you going to ask me to where we're going to get into a fight? Or, you know, how do I answer this correctly? Or, you know, how do I answer this in a way that's not going to piss you off? So it's like, there's all these things that go through a guy's mind and when, you know, women, especially when they go, hey, can I ask you a question? Again, guys, they're just like, fuck. Those purposely ask that question at the wrong time, though. Some women do. Yeah. I think that some vindictive women do do it on purpose. But there's also a lot of women out there who don't do it on purpose. You were just kind of like, this is eating me alive and I don't get this. Oh, you know, I need to. Right before the boys trip. Oh, shit. Yeah, those suck. Oh, yeah. I've done that before because I'm going to think that. This is what we're doing right now. Like right now, this is what we're doing. Yeah. Before she asks, let me talk to guys. Tell them to be late or. Or you guys go and have so much fun. Let me put this burden on your mind for you to think about all fucking weekend long. Oh, we can. Jesus. Go have fun. Oh, really? Nah, that's over with. Fun is over with. It's called, I hope you have fun, but I hope this eats you alive and it really makes me think before you even, you know. I don't know. It's already agreed that they're going to be able to go. No problems. But the last minute. Yeah, but go okay. They have fun, which is totally something I would do and just, you know, do whatever you want. Don't die. Where some women are like, yeah, you know, let me put this in your head. And the guy goes, oh, fuck, I can't go in that trip. I love my wife a little, my wife or girlfriend. Oh, I can't smoke this because they'll kill me. Oh, I can't do this. I can't do that. Whereas, you know, honestly, we just go have fun. Live your freaking life. And when you're home. He was me. Yeah. I think my biggest thing with all of my married friends, their wives always say, bring him back the same way I brought him to you. He's got a few broken bones. I just prefer him come home alive. But, you know, do something stupid. He's going to do something stupid. Yeah. I mean, that's true. All right. I know y'all got baby practice to get to. I'm going to let you guys go. I appreciate you to the moon and back until my guy. I'll see him next week. I will. Sounds good. All right. Later. See you. That's crazy. That is crazy. You know, when Dan, what are we about to leave? You want to hit me with some bullshit like that? Hey. Hey, what up? Nothing. What are you up to? Watching this new show. Okay. Oh, okay. You know, you know, can I tell you something about what I figured out about people and relationships and people that are single? Yeah. People that are single are just too picky. Really? You're just too picky. I mean, I guess me included 100 percent because you could go right across the water to a different country and someone will marry you tomorrow. Oh, I'm just saying. That's true. I'm just saying. Yes or no? Yeah. You're right. I'm here with coy by the way. Did that, coy? You've been here for five years. What up, coy? What do you want to say? What's up, dog? Exactly. Oh, my gosh. Oh, my gosh. Anyways, back to the real question at hand. Nina, why do you guys always ask, can I ask you a question before asking the question? I'm sorry. Go ahead and say that again, please. Because we want to make sure we can ask you a question. I mean, if he says no, yeah. Guess what? That question is going to be asked. Yeah, no choice. Why not just bring the question first instead of saying, can I ask you a question, then follow up with a different question? Yeah. Is it a give them a chance to gather together? I mean, I mean, go ahead. I mean, it's just like we're, we're asking because nine times out of 10 when we're asking a question, it's not. We weren't like chit chatting. I feel like if we're chit chatting already. No, we'll still say, oh, my God, can I ask you a question? Yeah, we just. I think it's common courtesy. I mean, we have no, we have no, yeah. It's like, oh, my God, here we go. Like, yes. Do you guys do that, though? Absolutely not. We just blurted out. Oh, just so. Let me ask you this. No, no, we don't even say that. I mean, I've been to nine times out of 10. We have no questions to ask. Right. Does that drive y'all crazy kind of truth? Does that drive y'all crazy that we have no questions? Oh, yeah, sometimes, sometimes I'm like, oh, my gosh. Like, I think, like, don't you want to get to know me? How come you're not asking me any questions? Oh, my gosh, I feel like y'all are good. Y'all looking for a post-game interview. We're just like, no further questions at this time. We'll get to know each other on a date. Yeah. Like, not even that. It's just like, like, let's just chill and join a vibe. Leave my mind. Yeah, yeah, yeah. No, you were. Oh, my gosh. I mean, I, you know, I guess it's the catch 22. It's the catch 22 of everything. Right. I just, you know, I don't understand. And I've asked plenty of guys. How do you feel when your wife or girlfriend asks you? Can I ask you a question? And the look they have on their face is like, oh, man. It's like, it's like, he, like, the look says, here we go. Like, I'm like, damn. I have a cigarette. Sometimes they can ask you a question. And sometimes I'm just like, question time. Oh, my gosh. Shit. Here we fucking go. She is on one today. Yeah. Yeah. I do that. I was like, question time. And they'll be like, oh, okay. Yeah. I mean, I just feel like, I feel like there's a time and a place for everything. So I don't know why you guys would. Do something like that, I guess, but. Oh, because there's always time for a question. Yeah, but there's time for you just to ask the question. Don't say, can I ask you a question? No, because I already know it's bad. But it's not always bad. It doesn't matter. That's how I'm taking it. I gotta mentally prepare myself for the down form. Well, you know what? But if you stay ready, so you ain't got to get ready. Shit. Stay ready. So you don't have to get into it. Is that what we're talking about? Hey, it's all about preparation. Maybe if you guys ask this question, we wouldn't have to ask to ask questions. Have you guys thought about that? Good. Dude, this is not. We thought about that. No, just how about you just say, Hey, let me think about that. Yeah. Let me think about that. Yeah. Sometimes you guys, the answers are vague too. So then there's follow up. Oh my gosh. I mean, like, does every question need to be in depth? No, not really. Some questions are just yes or no. Or, you know, like, what's your favorite fruit? Apples or orange? Apples, you know, like stuff like that. Okay, but let me ask you this. And when do you say, can I ask you a question? I say, can I ask you a question? When I say question time, then it's like something fun. Question time is fun. Can I ask you a question? Oh, shit. What the fuck did I do? Whoops. Like, what do I need to remember that I forgot? Yep. That's where I'm at. What do I need to remember that I forgot? Yep. What do I need to remember that I forgot? What the fuck just happened? Where did the fuck just happen? Yeah. Where was the misstep? Literally about to play trivia. So, yeah. Why, though? Why? Because it's important, like, you know, like, whomever you're dating or in a relationship, their favorite flower, their favorite food, what they're allergic to, stuff like that. Yeah. And then, I feel like once you get comfortable, no, I still say can ask you a question. Yeah. See? Yeah. See in that one. You know what? Yeah. Yeah, I still ask. See? Who's seeing her turn on the Mac? You lied to me? Just saying. Turn. Yeah. You know, who sings it? I don't know. It's just one of those things where I'm like, look, you are going to ask a question that I do not feel like I have enough time to formulate the correct answer. Exactly. To give you. So that way we can move on from this debauchery. When they're asked. You're welcome. What's a good counter to that question? What's a good counter to, can I ask you a question? If he's not trying to ask the answer. If you don't. Nina? Oh, then when, if I ask, can I ask you a question? I am not trying to answer the question. Oh, shit. That's how you come back like, oh, yeah, can I ask you a question? So I leave this excited and shocked at the same time. And then we'll say, okay, yeah, do you go first? Oh, God. I'm not, I'm not even trying to go first. You tell me what you want to bother me with. And then if it's not bothersome, then I'll say never mind. That's how I look at it. Like, like, why are we. You guys didn't ask questions. I mean, clearly. Yeah, because, like, you might be like, oh, can I ask you a question? How come you didn't ask me how my day went? Oh, God. But I feel like that's, like, later on. Later on for what? You know, like, after, it's kind of like, after a year when the honeymoon phase starts to wear off. Then you hit me with the bullshit. Oh, God. Well, we were not here with the bullshit if you just consent, but it goes both ways. It goes both ways. So. Got it. Got it. Yeah. What is it? The prayers for you and your family. Oh, my gosh. All right, Nina, I appreciate you. I have a, yeah, I have a blessed life. Thank you. Oh, my God. I want to see you this weekend. Yeah, you are. Yeah, you are. All right. Thank you. I'll see you later. Bye. What do you do if she hit you with, uh, have a blessed life? I mean, ignore and show text back. No, I will tell you this. No. Um, it depends on where we're at in the relationship. If we are fighting and there's already turmoil and, and what I'm doing already is not enough. And we aren't trying to come on, come into some type of common ground. Then we need to sit down and have a conversation, but if you don't want to. Like this is not a prison. Okay. No. This is not a, yeah, this is not a prison. The door is not chained up. It is not locked. You are free to go whenever you want. That is true. But I think too, that has been the downfall for all of my relationships. Guys or girls? No, all of my relationships. Because of the fact that I don't hold nobody hostage. If you, like the moment you say you want to go, like I'm not holding hostage. It's not calling their bluff. I'm not calling your bluff. I'm just saying I, I want you to be happy, even if it's not with me. I love you enough to let you go. They don't want to hear that. I fight for me. You don't, you know what? I don't think people are mature enough or, or have done the work enough to be in. Yeah. To have those type of talks in the relationship. You don't even care. It's not that I don't care. I care more about you and I'm putting your feelings first before mine. I love you enough to let you go. Because I want you to be happy, even though, even if it's not with me. Or again, these answers from. No, it's no answers. It's just, it's just a fact. I like that and clearly I'm single. So, so it's, it's clearly what I'm saying. Chat GPT? No, I'm just, I don't, I don't think, uh, there shouldn't be a fight to stay. You should want to stay. Yeah. I don't want to. If you do leave, you're welcome to leave. Yeah, you're welcome to leave. Like I said, there's no, there's no chain on the gate. And this is not a prison. Like I never want you to feel that way. I want you to want to be with me. Right. Yeah. That's it. No, no, no. There's no need in this situation. I want two people should always want to be together. Absolutely. Because if it's a need, the other person is needing to be here, not wanting to be here, which will ultimately end when they don't need to be there. Uh, what do they say, uh, meaning lasts longer than happiness? Meaning, meaning lasts longer than happiness. Meaning lasts longer than happiness. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. All right. Let's get to another one. Uh, let's see if Stacy is free. I know. She's probably driving. Hello. Hey, Stacy. Hi. How are you doing? I'm good. How are you? Good. How was the workout? I'm good. But it's a good day. Okay. I like it. I like it. I like it. Uh, I hear a coy coy say what's up, Stacy. Stacy. What's going on? Hi. How are you? Good. Thank you. Oh, wow. Shut up. This is hating. No. It's coy. Like that coy been here for half a decade. Wait. I know. And you can't help us. They are having a little bit differently. Oh my God. Hey, come on. They let it roll. Oh my God. That's a good day. Relax. Relax. Don't get jealous over there. Never that, never that. Okay. So the question of the day is, why do you ladies always say, can I ask you a question to your man before asking a question? Well, that's a trick question because even if you say no, we're still going to ask it. So why even ask that question? I think we're just kind of preparing you because honestly, I only say that when my husband is in trouble. So I think that kind of prepares him that something kind of like, can I ask you a question? And he's like, uh, and I'm like, okay. So this is what I was going to ask you because I'm not even going to wait for him to answer me. But I don't, I think it's just kind of like our smart ass way of doing it because you know we don't ask you that when it's something good. Yeah. Absolutely not. If that's being a little condescending and also kind of a bitch before the question, I think. A hundred percent nothing, but I remember Brimstone come after that. Uh huh. So it's not a good, it's not a good thing when we say that. So why don't you guys just get to the question though? Like, why are you paying attention? Like, we want you to kind of like, I'm not even, I know this is a very mean to say, but when I say that to my husband and he looks at me, I kind of like see the look on his face. Like, I like to kind of scare him a little bit. Yeah. Like, I like to let him know it's coming. So I mean, I won't have come on. Say, I just want to scare him a little bit and then give him the question. The bullet is coming either way. Just, just let it go. Yeah. I can't even notice. If you guys said that to us, I'd be like, no, don't even ask me. And I totally walk away. So you guys can find some way to do it. No. Well, I think the fact of the matter is that. I also wonder if you women get mad that we don't have questions to ask you guys. I think we're just more like in our own heads about things than you guys. Like, a lot of times you guys don't give a shit or like you just take it for us. It is what we analyze things. So when we want to ask you a question, it's because we're already analyzing it and we want to see what you say. Whereas you guys, like things don't bother you or like get into your head the way it would us. And if it does, you're just going to ask us. It's like straight out. But I think we're just more different than we were wired. We care too much and we analyze it. But I mean, I don't really want to be asked questions. So it's okay. It's crazy. We're crazy. I'm sorry. I mean, yeah, I, you know, I've asked mind you. I only called ladies because a lot of guys wanted to know the answer to this question, but did not want to ask their significant other. So, I mean, yeah, I would find you a fight. It would probably be a fight if they asked. Yeah, but this is the thing. Why am I getting trouble for me wanting to know why you always ask? Can I ask you a question before you ask me the question? No one I can't say no. Like, why does that have to turn into a fight? Hmm. I wish I had the answer for you for that. I mean, I'm going to blame, I'm going to blame our hormones. I'm just going to say that. I'm just going to use that for now. I don't know. Honestly, like, I think in the moment we do that, but sometimes we'll reflect later, like, why we get pissed off. Like if you were to ask that and we realize we're crazy, but you know, we're not going to admit it. So I don't know. I don't know why we're like that. It shouldn't be a fight. But sometimes we're just going to move to fight. No? Do you think sometimes women are in a mood for arguments and so they create? Oh, yeah. Not like to create one, but there are things that might not bother us on a daily basis, and it's just one of those days, and you're the person that's around, and you're the user who want to take it out on. So we're going to start a super fight. And then the next day, we're going to be like, "Oh, shit." Yeah. So I think there are those days. You know, you just had a bad day. Everything's probably not. If you can't go off on people at work, you're going to do it to the person that's closest to you that you know is still going to be there, which doesn't make it right, but we do it. Well, at least your arm is about, doesn't make it right. Oh, no. It doesn't make it right, but I'm not going to admit that all the time. But, yeah. I mean, sometimes we're just in a mood. You guys aren't. That's why there are men and women. You guys level us out. You keep us grounded so that we're not crazy every day. Just certain days. Certain days and every day. Certain days and then why? Yes. All right, Stacy, we're going to let you go. I appreciate you to the moon back. I'll take you back. Bye, Christopher. Bye, Clay. Later. I just can't get her out of here. Bye. I mean, one scan. They only ask you. They only ask and can ask you a question for the problems. Yeah, for the problem. For the problem. Jesus. What did a little scratch say? We don't want no problems. Here we go. Then little scrappy say we don't want no problems. Damn. I don't know, Clay. Here we go. It's just one of those things. Yeah, literally. Oh, God. There we go. Fuck. Ugh. Like, my thing is like, damn, if you're going to ask me a question, Elise, bring me a drink. Like, if I got it, if I got a sip, if I got a sip for this fucking ride, bring me a cocktail and make sure it's strong. All right. Like, like, you see that? Take that, though, huh? She hands you a drink and says. Yeah. Bang. Take it to the head. Take, take the cocktail. Hey, that might as well. You're there for a long night. Exactly. I'm here for a long night. I'm as well. I can't go anywhere. At least another, another one. Yeah. Yeah. It's like when you, when you're in the plane, like you can't, and they close the door. You can't go anywhere. What else is on that, Henny, and then ask you the question. No, no, no. You've got to be sober. Me? I don't have to be. You want to ask questions. That, that, Henny neat. That, that, that. Henny neat. We know. Get you that question. We know. We don't talk it if she's on any. No. No. But if you want to talk to me, yes, bring me, bring me a strong drink. Because I feel like I'm going to be here. It's going to be a long night. Let me at least have something simple. Have you stuttering? Hey, I don't care. Like Ruben. They're like Ruben's. Alright, man. Let's get about here. First of all, I don't think you're right for listening with you. Let's do it on Google Play, our radio, Spotify, our podcast, SoundCloud Pandora. Or you downloaded that Mendo no podcast app. I can't thank y'all enough. Our merch was open as always. Hit me up on Instagram at Mendo no Twitter, Mendo no 1. Shoot me the email. Chris at Mendo no dot com or hop on the Mendo no dot com website and shoot me a message going by God. We are out. How many pictures are on Yelp? Pull up all these pictures. They're like, "Oh, that's the dessert you're eating?" Alright. So, that's the candle. Okay, that's the same candle. I know what that is. It's 45 minutes to an hour. 45 minutes. Wait, can you run that long? No offense. I thought you were married. That was everything, bro. That was what you did? Yeah. That was my first day. I think the guy is more comfortable being alone than me. That's the only thing so. Thanks. [Applause]