On this episode, Chris & Koi call some friends to ask them what questions they shouldn’t ask on a date?
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[cheers and applause] Uh, merch stores open. As always, hit me up on Instagram. Matt Mendo know. Put her in Mendo know. Once you've been email Chris at Mendo know.com or hop on the Mendo know.com website and shoot me a message. Oh, my God. How are we living? What are we doing? Tell a man question of the day. Appreciate you. [cheers and applause] Question of the day is... Uh, five questions you should not ask someone you're dating. Or on... On the first date. Yeah, like, when you first came in. First five dates. What are questions you should not be asking? I want to hold your questions till the end. Uh, let's... Let's get somebody on here and see who we are going to. Oh, here we go. And... Let's get just... [phone rings] [phone rings] [applause] Hello. Hey. What up? Hi. What are you up to? Oh, my God. It's so loud. What? What are you up to? I'm cooking dinner. Oh, you do that. Okay. Okay. Let me show you how I got this ring. [laughs] It is back. Back. Back. Back. [laughs] Oh. Hi, man. On the package. [laughs] Hi. Question of the day, Jess. I'm here with Coi Coi, by the way. Say what's up. What's up? Coi. Long time no see. Yeah, long time. Oh, no. Now long enough. But anyways. Wow. [laughs] Question of the day. Let me ask you this. What questions should not be coming up on the first five dates when meeting somebody? Don't ask me my body count. Let's start there. You already know. Recent activities. [laughs] Do not ask that. I don't care if you're a guy or a girl. You're weird. Why do you need to know what came before you? All that matters is you're here. Right. Really? All that matters. Be thankful. Stop. Don't ask me when I lost my virginity. I feel like that's weird. That's a dumb question. Why does that matter? Yeah, it's weird. I can't go back that far. [laughs] I can't knit. [laughs] Oh, boy. [laughs] I definitely think asking people's sexual preferences is weird. Like as far as what they are into, what they like. I feel like you shouldn't be asking that in the first five days. And I feel like a lot of guys get too comfortable. Because I've heard plenty of my girlfriends complain with things that guys say and joke about, not even just asking. But like, stuff like that. Or how do you, yeah, or guys ask how you feel about sending nudes. We just had this conversation too. Don't ask for that. You're weird if you ask for that. Oh, yeah. Super weird. Like, yeah, that's weird. Why would they even, never mind, never mind. No, that's a crazy question. No, because you're not, I feel like it's only like a desperate thing. Like if you're desperate, you're asking me for nudes. Do you think, yeah, yeah, because men that get pussy really don't ask for shit like that. Exactly. It's not even that. There's internet and porn. Yeah, really. Like, I'm really not, yeah. Yeah. I mean, unless you want me to, you shouldn't be looking at porn. I'm like, do you guys feel like setting nudes these days is harder than it was back then? That's fine. Yeah, I understand that. But if you screenshot a snapshot, they know, you know what I mean? Oh, yeah. Nowadays, I think it's really easy for people to get that kind of stuff. And I do feel like not so much, I hate saying not so much people are generation because it does happen with them as well. But I just feel like a lot of the younger generation has this mentality of, oh, I'm just going to send this to this person and we live in a digital world. Yeah. Like the number one thing I hate, I'm going to, I'm really going to age all of those right now, but the internet came out when we were in high school guys. Okay. So I didn't have those type of homes right, like. I'm talking about, I'm talking about you could be in a heavy conversation and your parents pick up the phone and get off the phone. I, well, just look out. Wait a whole other 15 minutes or so. 100%. Get off the phone. I'm on the phone. Literally. But I know that when I was younger and it started being something that was becoming more popular. My mom told me at that point. Don't send anything. You don't want someone else to read because it's always everybody you talk to has a best friend. Yeah. Everybody you talk to has, you know, that person they come fight in. And my thing is once something's on the internet, as we all know, it's not coming down. Nope. So you're there forever. Ask him. And that's just not life, that's your job. And you're putting me on the billy to put me on the billy. I mean, yeah. Yeah. There's regular girls. I honestly, I exactly go on to freakin website. Everybody goes on now. Only fan or you pay. Yeah. Thank you. Only fan. I don't know. I think that's weird. I think it's weird for a guy to ask me. Personally, I never want to be asked in this day and age, but I feel like if I was dating nowadays, I would never send a nude. I would just never send a nude unless I was with that person. Like if I'm married to you, that's different. Yeah. That's it. And that's what I mean about back then and now. It's like you already know. I mean, I don't even have to be as long as we're together. Like, I mean, yeah, we're together now. I mean, I don't even have to be as long as we're together like, I mean, yeah, we're together. First of all, dick pics ain't even like, yeah, yeah, yeah. But you know that they like, yeah, not a hundred percent, hundred percent. It's totally different. Like it's not that common for a female to pick that and be like, oh, I'm a blast at all over the internet and whatever. And like, this is how I'm going to get back to chew or something like that. Like, I feel like it's men share. You might help me out. To share. You know, you know, my go to movies. All right. I'm glad I could trust you. I said, man, they can't fuck me over. Boy, you can't say I'm glad I could trust you with this. You know, you could trust me. Like, like, you've heard the new codes or something. Somebody get this guy. I can't. I can't. I'm glad I could trust you. Oh, my gosh. Oh, my gosh. This guy. Oh, my God. It's just your friend. I don't know. Yeah. Now, you know what? I do agree with most of actually probably, if not most, but all the things you've said because of the fact that like, I don't know, it's just nowadays, I think people say dumb shit and don't know how to ask the right questions, because they don't know how to communicate. Yeah. I mean, I feel like, like, I think back in our day, it's like you had one shot, like, because you guys, you know, it wasn't even like, you got a phone number and it was like a home phone number. So when you hit it up, it was like, the meat had to be said. You had to, you had to get the, you had to travel. Yeah. You had to travel like a pirate to get to the place to the meet up. Send the raven. Yeah. No signals. You couldn't blow it. Everything is just so different now. I also feel like a red flag, not so much for a female, but for a guy. If you're on a date with a girl and she asked you how much you made. Yes. Oh my God. That was just on my head. So I'm glad you asked. Yeah. Yeah. No stop. Finish that date. Wrap it up. Go Dutch. Have her pay for half of it and leave. You know what it does? It makes her seem like she's an opportunist. And then that's what's in your head all of a sudden. All right. I feel like there are certain things that people are going to ask you, even if they're not meeting it to come off that way, it's going to come off that way. 100%. You don't know somebody like that. You don't know their intentions. Yeah. You know what I mean? Like that. Yeah. It's completely different. Sorry. Sorry. Sorry. Good. No. No. I'm just saying, especially with now how everything is shown where, you know, guys and girls are going back and forth. They're like, oh girls are like, oh, if you want to date me at the PMI rant, my hair, my nails, my eyelashes, my clothes. And now guys are doing the same thing, you know, to be funny. But it's true. Like, I wouldn't, I wouldn't tell a female how much I make if I'm just dating you, why does it matter? I don't know. Like if we're getting serious, that's different. And then, you know, you're thinking about like, if we're getting serious, like the only time you should know how much I make is like, when we're at the stage of like, we might be thinking about moving in. That's a crazy thing for a person. That's what I'm saying. Like at that point, I feel like if you're at that serious level, or it's like, okay, well, if we're considering moving in. And when we need to speak about finance, because it's something we can do. Yeah. Exactly. But other than that, like, can you support yourself? What do you do? Oh, how much does that pay? I'd be like, um, what is happening right now? Yeah. Yeah. As crazy as, as crazy as sounds, these are questions that actually be at are getting out. Oh, I know. I know. It's crazy. It's crazy. I feel like that was a normal question that somebody would ask, though, and they don't think anything's wrong with it. That's the problem is I think a lot of people, they don't know what is socially acceptable. Yes. Uh huh. Yeah. Yes. Don't know. I'll give you a very weird situation that we had come up and it was nothing to do with baby dating somebody I had a sitter for my girls when they were probably, I think my oldest was maybe like around 10. The person grew up on our blocks. I knew who they were, but they were very, very young compared to me. Um, baby saw for a little while, whatnot. I hadn't seen her probably in like five or six years after she stopped babysitting randomly hit me up on social media and asked me if I had a cell phone that she could have. Whoa. Whoa. Like what? What? And then another time hit me up and was just like, Oh yeah, like how are you both? I was like, Oh, I'm good. You know, like I hope you're doing good, whatever blah, blah, blah. Oh yeah. Well, I'm actually like just really going through it. I didn't know if maybe I had to do this and I don't have a ride. Maybe I could borrow your car. Really? Wow. Like you did them think like I feel like people don't know their boundaries. I don't know if it's like an age thing. I don't know and it's not a drug thing. Like she doesn't have any issues like that completely normal, just a lot younger, like Hollywood. She when she asks you, um, I would say, so I'm pretty right now. She's probably right now in her late twenties and late twenties and she's saying you want my phone and car? What? You can't cancel. But do you see what I'm saying? I feel like people don't know what is normal or not normal. Now I'm all I it's also to do with like, how long have I known you, but how well do I know you? I can tell you right now off jump. I've literally been through my best and my worst parts of my life while milling Chris. If Chris had a very random question to ask me off top of head, just because we were talking one day, there's nothing that that person could ask me you, you could ask me that would be weird to me. Yeah, definitely. Right. Because I've known you like there's right, there's nothing weird about that. Even if you called me, Jimmy, you were like, okay, I just know what this girl, she said this, but it could be something totally weird and sexual. And you're like, is that weird? Is that like what girls are doing now? And I have no problem answering that. But for somebody that I like only see every once in a while, a few years here and they're like, you're weird with you guys, like, I don't understand it. And it's not just that person. I've had that happenless other random people, which is crazy, which is absolutely fucking insane. Yeah, that no, I have no problem. Wait, what? That car? No, I don't even wait. We're home girls, right? I need no. No, no, no, stay watch, watch. I'm waiting for one of you guys to tell me when you go on a date and the girl hits you up like a week later asking to borrow money or pay yourself something. If you want to talk to me on my phone, you need to pay myself on bill, I'm waiting for it. I would be so appalled. That's what's next. That's what's next. I don't know. I date women with AARP cards, so now I'm good. Just like the assumption of, well, if you want to take me out, then you need to pay for my babysitter. I mean, it would be nice if somebody offered that, but I feel like that's really weird for a girl to come off like that. Pay for my baby. Wait, first of all, I'm like, wait, where's the father at? Hey, questions. Right. Why don't you have a good relationship? Yeah. Why don't you have a good relationship with the baby daddy? Fire me bottle. I got it. Good job. All right. We're gonna let you go. I appreciate you. Get my man some dinner. We're playing. I'm serving him wine. Stop bothering me. That's what I'm talking about. That's what I'm talking about. Will, what I'm talking about by God, he's laughing at you, he's smelling it right now. Yeah. He's squirre with it. I'm sure he's a he got a taste of it later later. Oh, man. What would you do if a girl asked you to pay for her cell phone after one date? Absolutely not. You're crazy. You're a good guy though. You're a man with a man with a man with a friend. I don't care if I'm the man of a thousand friends. What if she's struggling? Huh? You know how important the phone is. I can get you a job. Yeah, but the job isn't going to pay me right now to turn my phone off. You don't need the phone right now. What we need to do is focus on the priorities. We got to get you my phone bill and I'll look for a job. No, I can take you to pay day. I get you a cash advance. Say you can do a payday loan interest. Not my problem. You can work. You can outwork the debt. Trust me, honey, you can outwork the debt. You can always outwork the debt. That's what you don't understand, honey. You can call your car to your car is crazy. I need your help moving. I need help. Oh my God. Six pack of defeats. Six pack of defeats. I used to work in the 80s and 90s. A hundred percent. Six pack of defeats. No, yeah. Three dollars. We used to work. I'll give you a couple of dollars. I'm on your way home. Okay. Different story. I don't even. Boy, you know, when we met, I remember you never even like to give rides home to any co-worker that live by. I got to pick up. I can't say anybody. All right. Let's get to my sins. Get to my sins. I'm not going your way. Oh. Hey. Hey, what up? Hey. That's the thing with you guys up to. Koi's acted up right now. No, I'm not. I'm perfectly fine. Oh my God. Koi's acted up. Koi's acted up. Oh my God. Koi's acted up. Koi's acted up. Koi's acted up. Koi's acted up. Oh my God. Koi's acting. Koi's acting up first of all. You know, are you giving people rides home for work if they ask? Hey, I don't have a car. No. No, you have a lot of room. You have a lot of room in your car and I'm on the way. I know I have a lot of room, but it's not me. I'm free. I got money. No. No. You got a lot of money. You got a lot of money. That's what it was for. Exactly. If you got gas, what do you have done for Uber? Stop playing. That's exactly. Stop playing. Koi's probably might be cheaper to take the Uber. Because I'm going to cut it. I'm sure. Yeah. They complain about the Uber at black prices. You're going to get that shared one. Oh, yeah. You get home. You get home. Oh, I love taking Uber black. Yeah. Uber black. I'm talking about the shared one. They're going to drop off like every other people before you. Save $3. Oh, God. Come on, man. Ah, Koi. Yeah. Rich people from. Okay. Don't you want this? Alright, dude. Question of the evening. What are some questions? People should never ask on a date since you are back in the dating scene and you back outside. What are some questions you shouldn't ask on a date? I feel like one of the questions you just don't ask because we're just growing adults is what your body counts. Yeah. Yeah. Body. Yeah. Body. This is. Yeah, you are not. You are not a chaunty. Another one is why are you single? Oh, my God. Yeah. I hate that. Yeah. Why are you safe? Because I am. Why are you working? Yeah. Why are you? If I wasn't, I wouldn't be here with you. I wouldn't be blessing myself for you. Come on. Hey, I'm not going to lie. Koi turned tough this year. Koi. Koi. Koi is all the way. I wouldn't be blessed. I would not be able to bless you, my friends, if I was listening. I agree. I wasn't. Yeah. Whoo. That's a slick talk. I agree with Koi. That is some slick talk right there. I don't know. I'm also in the. Damn, we were just. Like another question I hate is, am I prettier than your ex? Yeah, you can't. Oh, you got that? That's another crazy first. I would never. It's an expert reason. Of course I am. When is there a question? Yeah. Another one. How come you don't have kids? Oh, my God. Because you never took a fucking holiday. Is that the same level as do you want to have kids? Is it the same thing? No. No. Absolutely not. No. I think that's a reasonable question to ask if you want to have kids. Yeah. Do you want to have kids? Why don't you? Yeah. Yeah. If you ask why you don't have kids at your age? Yeah. Like one plus one is two. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Because safety never took a holiday. What about you? You rather me have two or three days with three different moms? You know? Believe it or not. I do feel like, yeah. I know that sounds crazy, but I do. I do think that that's what it is. Like, okay, well, I can come and save her and her children versus someone like me who just doesn't have one because I just chose not to have them with the people that I was. Exactly. I made an educated decision. Yeah. It's not hard. It really is. What about? Okay. I got one. What about, uh, why did your last relationship fail? It's like, it's a, I think it's a fair warranted thing to wonder, but if you ask it, the judgment comes already because it's like you're only able to say your side and she's already going to be like, well, what, what really happened? This and that. You know what I mean? Right. But what happened is I always feel like the word fail is, is not necessarily the correct word because it really could have been that you guys went your own separate ways or he wanted to go venture off and toward the world because there have been people who've been together since high school, you know, and they've grown, they've grown apart. So that's not a fail, that's just growing and they could still be best of friends just not in the relationship. So it didn't fail. Kind of. So I don't, you know, I just want to use the word fail. Right. Oh, but to me at the end of the day, I know this might sound. It's crazy. But I, that's not a question I'm going to ask because you should have already worked out all that you needed to work out before jumping back into the dating pool. Like I really, what is it? Why am I, why are we rehashing the path? Yeah, literally. Like, I know what I'm willing to put up with. You know what you are. So let's move forward. If I get any little signs, we'll have a discussion and as it continues, then I guess this will be another quote unquote failed situation. Yeah, I don't know why. I mean, I will never understand why some people ask me questions that like, don't ask about the past because unfortunately, the past is like, the only thing you should ask about when we're in a serious relationship. Right now, let's just catch a vibe, have a good time. And if this leads to something, then we can head down that road, but until we, but we don't get to that road care. If we choose to, and let me ask these damn questions, you know what, and this is the thing too, ladies, men have to consent to sex too. Like, just because you want to have sex with me, doesn't mean I want to have sex with you. Very true. I mean, mind you, mind you, it's very slim and that's a very slim and very narrow, very narrow, very slim, slim, slim, you know, pool, but there are certain situations where sometimes the guy's like, whoa, you know, you're asking me all these questions, like, we're going to be together. This is our first day, you know, this is our second date, this is our third date. This is our third date. And I'm trying to just catch a vibe. I can't even catch a vibe with you. Right. And it hasn't even been, yeah, and it hasn't even been two weeks and I can't catch a vibe with you. Oh, I'm good. I'm out. I already, I can see, I already know where this is headed. Now, let me, let me, let me ask you, sorry. Go ahead. No, go ahead. No, I mean, no, I, I definitely agree with you that it really should be fun and airy. And then the way to go about it is like, okay, like, what are your likes and your dislike, you know, because that makes it fun and not like so heavy, like, okay, well, I hate this, this is not because my, you know what I'm saying? I'm not trying to scroll down X memory lane. Yeah, I don't really care, but I'm also not a jealous person. So, you know, yeah, I don't, yeah, now I'm with you. I'm with you. Oh, go ahead. No, no, no, go ahead. I was going to say, like, we always harp about what our relationship with, is with family. Yeah. So it's like a question I just kind of brought to my head is when people ask like, what's your relationship with your parents, like, and it's like, it's a little personal, you know, like, of course you want to know about it. But I think that's a good question. But, but it's a very, yeah, I think it's a very kind and caring question because it's, kind of like, if they ask you this question, you're like, fuck them. That's a red flag and let me not waste our time. Let's run. But if it's like, oh my, you know, like, oh, yeah, you know, I'm heading to my mom. So, you know, I talk to them at least once or twice a week, that's it, you know, and then it's. I guess an easier level question is, how is your relationship with your family? There you go. See, that's what I was going to say. If you make it about the parents, they might not have a good relationship with us and then it might be offended. Yeah. But if you could say family, if I say family and friends, open up, you tell me you don't have any? Yeah. That's a red flag. Okay. It might be not your fault. But at the same time, it's like us, we're close with our fans. It's going to matter. It's 100% going to matter because you can't even, you wouldn't even, you wouldn't even know where to begin or fathom to walk into the situations that I'm bringing you in with not being shell shot. And you're always going to be their whole world to them. 100% bro. 100% bro. Yeah. You don't want that. 100%. And yeah, I like the way like, you know, how, you know, how's your relationship with your, your family and friends? I think that's a good one because some people haven't forbid their parents might not be here anymore. And you know, their new, their family and friends, like their friends are their family or they're, you know, which is, which is great, you know, but I always say, yeah, I'm not saying that they have to have a 17 or 18 friends, but they do need to have a set of friends. Yes. Yeah. They believe that most people they can respect them and they respect. Yeah. And that you, and I, that you trust like, damn, these, you know, like, if you meet my friends, you'll be like, damn, his friends got a good head on their shoulder. Right. Wow. Okay. Yeah. 100%. You don't see no knucklehead. Right. All right. Nina. We appreciate you. We're going to let you go. All right. Okay. You guys have a good night. Thank you. Okay. Bye. No, it's 100% true. I mean, I don't know, you, you want to ask right questions and this is what I'm talking about like, we on date is open-ended questions to make her laugh, create stories and memories, having her pulling out the phone and showing, showing you her past trips where she's laughing. Y'all having a good time. She opens up to you naturally. Yeah. You're asking a direct question. Yeah. Yeah. It's the way it should be on both sides. I think so. But I think nowadays, and like we talk about like, like you could get a girl just off the casual conversation because men don't know how to talk. Not anymore. No. Like the communication skills downhill, you start talking, girl, you start laughing and you start, you know, showing her a new, it's like, wow, she's looking at you like, wow. Okay. Like this is super dope. Same advice versa. You may talk to someone that will say probably you never thought to, but you know, be interested in, but just off the conversation, y'all laughing, y'all having a good time. It's like, damn, I actually, I just want to hang out with this person again because of the fun we had. And then you have like, damn, we like, we really like click, you know, clicking over the looks meter, you know, as you got 100% because at a certain time in your life, you want to catch a vibe and have a good time like, like, let me explain something to you. Those looks may come with arguments and it's like that. Are you at the age where you really want to remember our age looks are going to falter a lot sooner than they were when we were, yeah, 100% I mean, we don't got that 20 year gap. 100% 100%. But, and that's why I said like, look, I'm trying to catch a vibe and have a great time with you. Like, if we can't do that and there's something like, there's already drama and there's always there's already something like, man, all right, you know what, like, look, it's obvious that what I'm interested in doing, yeah, it doesn't align with where you are at in your life. And that's okay. And that's okay to recognize. And that's okay to recognize and, you know, I wish you, you know, we can be, you know, we can casually talk if you like and be friends, but like, you got to realize like, come on, like, we would be wasting each other's time. And that's the appropriate way to bring up to somebody. But if you, if you bring that up to me and then you see me next week getting mixy and this, that and the third, no, you chose your side, I always tell people, I said, I have to warn you, I am a good time. Yeah. We party over here. We like to have fun. But we also work. Yeah. All right, man, let's get out of here. First of all, I want to thank everybody for listening. When you listen to it on Google Play, I heard radio Spotify podcast, SoundCloud Pandora. You downloaded that Mendo no podcast app. I can't thank y'all. Now, I'm sure it's open as always. Hit me up on Instagram at Mendo no Twitter. Mendo no once. You mean like Chris at Mendo no dot com or hop on the Mendo no dot com website and shoot me a message for my guy. We are out. How many pictures are on y'all? Pull up all these pictures and you're like, oh, that's the dessert you're eating? All right. So that's the candle. Okay. That's the same. Careful. I know that. It's 45 minutes to an hour. 45 minutes. Wait, can you run that long? No offense. That's like I'm married. I think a guy is more comfortable being alone than a girl but I mean, that's the whole number. You think so? I think- [Applause] Thank you. [Applause] [Applause] (audience cheering) [BLANK_AUDIO]