The Learning Leader Show With Ryan Hawk - 607: Dr. Meg Meeker - How to Raise Tough, Resilient, Hard-Working, & Kind Children (Author of Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters)

Duration: 1h 6m
Broadcast on: 03 Nov 2024
Audio Format: other

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Dr. Meg Meeker has spent more than thirty years practicing pediatric and adolescent medicine and counseling teens and parents. Dr. Meeker is a popular speaker and bestselling author of several books, including the national bestseller, STRONG FATHERS, STRONG DAUGHTERS; THE 10 HABITS OF HAPPY MOTHERS; and BOYS SHOULD BE BOYS.

Notes:

One of the best things fathers can do is raise their daughters' expectations of life. That will directly affect how your daughter talks, how she dresses, how well she does in school, and even what sports or musical instruments she chooses to play. You can help her set goals, help her define a higher purpose for her life, and as a result, her self-esteem will skyrocket. And it will bring you closer, because she'll recognize you as a leader and an ally, helping her to chart a better course.
Don't post anything about your kids on social media. It makes them think they are your trophy to show off. And be mindful of how you talk about them to others. Do you only focus on their accomplishments? They are listening to what you say about them…
Be the man you want her to marry – See it, do it, teach it. What are the 5 strongest character qualities you want your children to have? How are you showing that to them every day? You are setting the standard. They are watching carefully. You will create what is quote, "normal," in their life. Are you living with integrity, working hard, not speaking poorly behind others backs? You are showing them how they should behave. If you were watching yourself from outside your body, would you like what you see? We have to live it every day.
Your daughter sees you (her dad) as her hero. The smartest, strongest, best person in the world.
Kids want their dad's approval. "I want attention just for being me, not for performing a sport." "You don't just love them. You love their company."
Always do good work, but don't boast about it.
"He believed in me." -- The power of the belief that Meg's dad had in her.
Teach her Humility - Genuine humility is the starting point for every other virtue. But teaching it is tricky. Your daughter needs to feel unique and important in your eyes. Humility doesn't make sense unless it's modeled. To fulfill her potential, your daughter needs to understand who she is, where she comes from, and where she's going. Humility is seeing ourselves honestly… Self-centeredness is a problem if we base our entire lives around our kids wants and desires.
Clarify your morals (without apology) – If you want her to live by a code or set of values, you must first live by them. If you don't want her to lie, then you should never lie. If you don't want her to use cuss/swear words, then you should not use them. If you don't want to her to drink, then don't normalize it in your house. She wants to see conviction and leadership in her father.
Teach your kids to serve in a soup kitchen. Be in service of others. Gain perspective by seeing how others who are less fortunate than you live.
Embrace them when they fail.
The dad plants the default in the minds of their children. What do you want that default behavior to be?
How to approach your daughter's boyfriends?
- Shake their hands
- Be curious, ask questions
- Invite them over for dinner

I've listened to thousands of kids talk about their dads. The foremost is dad has no appreciation for how significant he is in his kid's life. And here's a real kicker. Dr. Meg Meeker, one of the foremost experts in the world, what great parenting looks like. We're living pretty much in a culture that really bashes fathers. What have you found to be some of the commonalities among dads who have raised great kids into productive adults? I'm the most important man in this child's life. We tend to push dads out of the way. One of the ways to stay attached is to lead with curiosity. There are a couple of pitfalls that you have to be very careful about. Competitive parents create competitive kids. Don't post about your kids, ever, ever on Instagram. I tell you why. I overheard my dad talking to a friend on the phone, and I heard him say, "One sentence to change my life." Welcome to The Learning Leaders Show, presented by Insight Global. I am your host, Ryan Hawk. Thank you so much for being here. Text Hawk to 6686 to become part of Mindful Monday. You, along with tens of thousands of other learning leaders from all over the world, will receive. A carefully curated email from me each Monday morning to help you start your week off right. You'll also receive details about how our book, The Score That Matters, will help you become a more effective leader. Text Hawk to 6866 now. On to the night's featured leaders. So good. Dr. Meg Meeker has spent more than 30 years practicing pediatric and adolescent medicine and counseling teens and parents. Dr. Meeker is a popular speaker and best-selling author of several books, including The National Bestseller, Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters. She's also written The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers and Boys Should Be Boys. During this conversation, we discuss the importance of setting high standards as a parent and living up to them. Then how to love someone unconditionally, why you should never post anything about your children on social media. And at the end, we discussed what senior leaders in corporate America are doing right and wrong in and out of the office. Ladies and gentlemen, please enjoy my conversation with Dr. Meg Meeker. Throughout the course of your career, you are one of the foremost experts in the world on what great parenting looks like. How to raise tough, resilient, humble, productive members of society. Let's focus on dads for a second. When you think about dads, Meg, what have you found to be some of the commonalities among dads who have raised really, I guess for lack of a better word, great kids into productive adults? Well, one of the reasons that I know what that takes is because for 33 years, I've listened to thousands of kids talk about their dads. And one of the things that I've realized first and foremost is dads. Any father listening, I don't care where he is, who he is, how old he is, how old his kids are, has no appreciation for how significant he is and his kids' lives. That's just something dads don't understand and there are many reasons for that.

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