The Learning Leader Show With Ryan Hawk - 558: Introducing Our New Book, "The Score That Matters," (With Brook Cupps)

Duration: 1h 2m
Broadcast on: 14 Dec 2023
Audio Format: other

Order The Score That Matters NOW. CLICK HERE. In The Score That Matters, Ryan Hawk and Brook Cupps show that the internal score is what matters most—it reveals whether we are living in alignment with our purpose and values. Offering both descriptive and prescriptive advice and anecdotes, The Score That Matters will help you unlock true fulfillment and happiness by discovering your purpose, identifying your values, creating critical behaviors, and living them faithfully every day in all aspects of your life.

"The big question about how people behave is whether they've got an Inner Scorecard or an Outer Scorecard. It helps if you can be satisfied with an Inner Scorecard." - Warren Buffet – The inner scorecard is about eliminating comparison with others and living in alignment with what's most important to you. Your values and the behaviors to match those values.
- The inner scorecard eliminates the comparison of things.
How to build trust? Laugh together, cry together, suffer together (do hard things).
Resume virtues versus Eulogy virtues. We'll get caught up in living for our resume (promotions, money, objects) if we're not intentional. We think it's better to live for your eulogy virtues (the impact you had on people, fulfilling your purpose, living in alignment with your true values)
Why a strong purpose beats a good plan: we explain how a strong purpose erases obstacles, is never about you, and is highlighted by considering death.
Why being the greatest is a mirage: While greatness is a process that is attainable for all, we share why becoming the greatest is a destination that no one can reach.
How to navigate the tricky art of building trust: Throughout 25 years of teaching and coaching Brook has refined the trust-building process to 3 simple actions every leader can use.
How to fight the poison of comparison: Our focus on a consistent process over the societal pursuit of results seems contradictory to excellence but just may lay the foundation for its attainment.
Why self-awareness is not a solo flight: The feedback we seek from special people in our life, our foxhole, reminds us that we are tougher together.
Why team captains are overrated: Brook connects how the shared ownership of a team is best when all members assume the responsibility of upholding the standards.
How plain and simple can bore you right to excellence: We like to complicate success, but we point back to a consistent return to the fundamentals.
Brook originally learned about creating and living his core values from Coach Dick Bennett's "Pillars of Success."
Brook's values are: Tough, Passionate, Unified, and Thankful.
My values are: Thoughtful, Thankful, Curious, and Consistent.
Foxhole friends are disagreeable givers. They are kind enough to give you honest feedback. And you do the same for them.
Thankful Thursdays
- Send a text message, email, or handwritten note to three people you're thankful for every Thursday.
Push the pace... Full-court pressing and always running a fast break on offense is living up to Brook's value of speaking and acting with urgency (unified).
- How Brook coaches his team to play: "Our anchor defensively is no comfort, no vision. We want you to never be comfortable. And we want the same thing offensively. We say simple and together, but we think of pressing you offensively too. We don't want you to be comfortable. We want you to be on your heels."

Hey, it's Ryan, thank you for being here for this special episode to introduce our new book, The Score That Matters. I said "our" because I had the distinct pleasure to write this book with my mentor and great friend, Brooke Cups. When I was speaking with economics professor and best-selling author Tyler Cowan, I asked them why he wrote his most recent book with a co-author, and he said, "If you have an opportunity to work with someone who is awesome and brilliant, who will cooperate with you, you should always do that, drop everything and do that." Brooke and I sat down together almost two years ago and spent eight hours filming what we thought was going to be a video course. I had someone sitting next to us transcribing every word we said during those eight hours, and when I looked through the transcription, I thought, "This is a book." And so that was the genesis of this book, The Score That Matters. I truly think it's the greatest thing I've ever written. A lot of that is because of the influence of Brooke and how he's helped me. This is a book that will help you create and live your core values, and I think that is the foundation of living by the score that matters most, of living by that inner scoreboard. This comes from a quote from Warren Buffett when he said, "The big question about how people behave is whether they've got an inner scorecard or an outer scorecard. It helps if you can be satisfied with an inner scorecard." And through the course of writing this book with Brooke, I have become much more satisfied with my inner scorecard, and I think if you read it and implement it, it will make you a better husband or wife, mom or dad, and absolutely better at your place of work. You'll live more in alignment with what's most important to you, not what society tells you what should be important to you. And to me, I am most attracted to those people who have done the work on themselves to show up better for the people they lead. And that's what this book will help you do. At the end of each chapter, there are exercises so you can implement right now immediately what you're learning. So if you want to do this work, and I suggest you do, because I think it will make you better, go to learningleader.com and pre-order the score that matters, or go to Amazon. It's right there. You can pre-order the score that matters. If you do go to learningleader.com, there are bonuses that we will provide you for investing in this book and this project. I truly believe it will change your life if you let it. So go to learningleader.com, pre-order the score that matters. Okay, here we go. Welcome to the learning leader show presented by Insight Global. I am your host, Ryan Hawk. Thank you so much for being here, especially today, to announce our next book, the score that matters, my guest, is my friend, mentor, and co-author for the book that we have written together called the score that matters. Brooke is a leadership teacher and the coach of the Center for High School Boys basketball team in 2021. He led this team to the first state championship in school history. We spent the past 18 months writing together, learning together to make this the most practical and useful book for you. And during this conversation, we cover some of the elements of the book, like why a strong

Transcription truncated.