The Learning Leader Show With Ryan Hawk - 389: Ed Latimore - How To Control Your Mind, Body, & Emotions

Duration: 1h 12m
Broadcast on: 25 Oct 2020
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Episode #389: Ed Latimore

The four life lessons:
- "Never underestimate the power of being likeable and controlling your emotions."
  - "Nothing is neutral. People are trying to help you or move ahead of you. In basic training, he was a terrible shot. He failed the shooting test three times (which was the limit), and yet got a fourth chance because he was likable. And then passed. "They saw me working hard, so they helped me."
  - How to be more likable? -- "Don't curry favor. Be you... Have high standards. Treat everyone with respect. Have impeccable manners. Be comfortable with the fact that you're not for everyone."
- "No one cares what happened to you or what you've been through. No one is coming to save you."
  - "Society is not going to take pity on you if your problems create problems for others." You need to work to through your own issues and ow your actions. Don't take your trauma out on others."
  - How has Ed built the perspective to not be a victim? "It's about delivering value to others. And not subtracting it. That's destructive. Forgiveness is a powerful idea. Holding a grudge is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die."
- "The most powerful belief you can have is that given enough time, you can learn anything. Rome wasn't built in a day, but Hiroshima was wiped out in seconds."
  - Keep plotting along... Ed did this as a boxer and math and with every aspect of his life. Keep going. "Fall in love with the process."
    - "Make a movement with intention and in pursuit."
- "A limitation is only as powerful as the energy you give to it. Your dreams also follow this same law."
  - "You'll only be as successful as your worst habit."
  - "You must recognize the problem and/or the limitation."
High achievers tend to be a paradox. They have self-confidence combined with insecurity. It creates a fusion reaction. It drives them to continually prove themselves.
How is money made? "Give people something they want."
Ed desires to be the most interesting version of himself
Compartmentalization:
- You can't approach others with a sense that you're better than them
- You must be adaptable to a variety of circumstances
Understand the dichotomy of being confident and humble at the same time

people have to become really comfortable with the idea that they are not for everyone like you are not everyone's cup of tea and you really weren't ever designed it like like and no one is you know what I mean the best president in history who leading in the nation having approval rating of like 60 maybe and that's hot man like 60% so it's not you're not supposed to be for everyone but your goal I think I think it's a very worthwhile goal in life to figure out who you are and then surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you and do not demand you to be something as uncomfortable through something else welcome to the learning leaders show presented by Brixie and Meyer I am Ryan Hawk thank you so much for being here text learners the 4 4 2 2 2 in order to join tens of thousands of learning leaders from all over the world receive mindful Monday updates what I'm reading writing watching thinking about also give you more details about how my book welcome to management will help you become a more effective leader text learners to 4 4 2 2 2 now on tonight's feature leaders a great one it's Ed Latimore best-selling author former professional heavyweight boxer and competitive chess player a true polymath his work focuses on self-improvement and a practical approach to stoic philosophy a few of the topics we discuss he shares its four major life lessons and what they mean for you and then Ed describes why purpose is built not discovered and then how to be comfortable with the idea that you're you are not for everyone and why that's powerful for you ladies and gentlemen you're gonna love this one it's Ed Latimore Ed Latimore it's great to have you here on the learning leaders show man welcome hey thank you for having me man I really appreciate you taking the time sure um we spoke briefly before we started recording at about excellence and my love of studying those who have sustained excellence over an extended period of time and you are certainly one of those and you've also done a good job of surrounding yourself with others who have as well what have you found Ed to be some of the commonalities among people who have sustained excellence over an extended period of time I can't remember the book but this section always stuck with me because someone like took it out and put it on Instagram or something and I said oh that that's great high achievers people that like and who sustained it over Tom they they tend to be a a paradox of like incredible self-confidence but also insecurity and those two things come together and it creates this fusion reaction where it's it's it drives them to always prove that they're better than everyone but they simultaneously think they're good or and maybe not better than everyone is in terms of other people but they're they're always trying to prove to themselves at the very least that they are that they are not incapable and they're always trying to prove to others that they are capable even if they deep down believe that and I thought of when I read that I was like wow you know that's really interesting because at the at my core I think that I bring a lot more to the table than anyone I tell people all the time I go you know I'm probably going to be the most interesting person or the most people ever have the fortune of meeting at the same time I believe that I always have to do more and be more and be better I'm I'm never satisfied now as I've grown a majority that has turned into this idea of of I'm content I really enjoy my life I can look at I can look at what's occurred and what I've went through and how that's built me and I can okay you know we we've been through some things we got a few lucky breaks and we have learned the hard way but survived long enough to reap the lesson so we don't have to learn the hard way again and I can be grateful and content but I'm not but at the same time I'm not like ever going to just rest because I know there's just you know I only get you know 80 maybe 90 years on this planet the last you know 10 of which you know I got to start I got to start cutting stuff out like I can't decide I want to I want to work on my jumper at the age of 90 man I got a I got to figure that out now you know when you say something about that that you believe you'll be the most interesting person that people meet how do you juxtapose that with being humble because that's a statement that is not one from humility at least I don't sense but but I sense you do have humility about you from doing all of the pre-work for this one and that that's part of what's driven you so like this delicate balance I mean Cat Cole might say like her her ideal leader is someone who

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