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377: Casper Ter Kuile - How To Turn Everyday Activities Into Soulful Practices
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Episode #377: Casper Ter Kuile - How To Turn Everyday Activities Into Soulful Practices
Notes:
- Excellence:
- Always learning
- Commitment - Willingness to go deep
- Generosity
- Patience
- Casper spent his 30th birthday with nuns. He's not very religious but realized he had a lot in common with them. They care about the same things. They're very honest.
- What he learned from his mother and father:
- Father - Do well when you follow the rules. Be detail oriented. Honest. Trustworthy.
- Mother - She has a more "cheeky side." She breaks the rules.
- Deep connection isn't just about relationships with other people. It's about feeling the fullness of being alive. It's about being enveloped in multiple layers of belonging within, between, and around us.
- Four Levels of connection:
- Connecting with yourself
- Connecting with the people around you
- Connecting with the natural world
- Connecting with the transcendent
- Four Levels of connection:
- Tradition -- "We mistake tradition for convention. Tradition is the beating heart, convention is the outer expression."
- A college football team can change their uniforms and not lose tradition. The uniforms are a form of outer expression.
- You change symbols as you grow.
- A college football team can change their uniforms and not lose tradition. The uniforms are a form of outer expression.
- Preaching at its best is a conversation with the congregation. Ancient texts are so valuable. The Bible is a description of how life is...
- Casper shares what it was like growing up in England and not fitting in...
- His home life was great. His school life was awful.
- Connection:
- Willing to change
- Forged in flames
- Honesty & commitment to each other
- Science is stable - we value being in tribes. There's less of a connection to places and family. There is a decline in religious communities.
- Why has there been a decrease?
- Productivity has become so important. To be productive, relationships are sacrificed. Priorities have shifted.
- We are missing opportunities to go deep with people
- Productivity has become so important. To be productive, relationships are sacrificed. Priorities have shifted.
- At work: Younger people show up at a job for the meaning of the company...
- The military: Soldiers care about the people they are shoulder to shoulder with... They honor their culture.
- As a manager: Replicate water cooler moments (virtually). 30 minutes snippets on zoom. Invite people to go deeper.
- Use question prompts - create safe spaces. It's an interesting time for relationship design.
- He's created "The Confession Group"
- The leader needs to model vulnerability but hold the boundaries.
- Have a place where people can go to admit they screwed up -- 10 minutes to share, 10 minutes to ask questions
- Discipline:
- Take a tech sabbath -- Each Friday, Casper hides his phone and computer. It's rest time. Sabbath - "The apex of life."
- What we practice is what we become
- "We all worship something. We just don't know what we're worshiping."
- The paradigm of how we see ourselves in the world.
- "We all worship something. We just don't know what we're worshiping."
- How can I create the conditions in which people have meaning-oriented conversations? So it's about creating the culture, exactly. As you said, that allow people to have conversations that are actually enriching at a deeper level than just like, hey, let's hit these sales targets. 'Cause if you are just gonna rely on the extrinsic rewards of, okay, you're gonna get a bonus 'cause we hit these targets, you're gonna get, it makes for a very thin culture. 'Cause as soon as someone gets a better offer somewhere else, they're gone. We are opening up applications for our next learning leader circle. We only do this once per year. And think back to the great conversation I had with the legendary Jim Collins, episode 216. He said, Ryan, before you get too caught up in the why, in the what? You need to first be very intentional about your who. Who will be your friends? Who will be your mentor? Who will you help? Who will you choose to surround yourself with? That will be the single greatest determining factor in your long-term success. And I would ask you the same question. Who are you surrounding yourself with? Do you want to be surrounded by growth-oriented leaders that are willing to push you? We've added specific curriculum and elements so that by the end of the year, you'll have tangible outcomes to measure your growth and be a more effective leader, both personally and professionally. These groups are intentionally curated and kept small. Time and again, the thing that people say they love about these groups is the relationships they're able to build with one another in a short period of time. If you'd like to apply, go to learningleaderscircle.com. That's learningleaderscircle.com to apply. Welcome to the Learning Leaders Show, presented by Brixie and Meyer. I am Ryan Hawk. Thank you so much for being here. Text learners to 442-222. In order to join tens of thousands of learning leaders from all over the world, receive mindful Monday updates. What I'm reading, writing, watching, thinking about.
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