Relationships 2.0: How To Keep Conflict From Spiraling
When it comes to conflict, most of us just want to shut it down. But psychological research is increasingly taking a different approach to discord, with profound implications for disputes big and small. This week, we kick off our Relationships 2.0 series by asking: what if we stop trying to eliminate conflict and instead ask, how can we do conflict better?
- Duration
- 59m
- Broadcast on
- 31 Oct 2022
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- other
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When it comes to conflict, most of us just want to shut it down. But psychological research is increasingly taking a different approach to discord, with profound implications for disputes big and small. This week, we kick off our Relationships 2.0 series by asking: what if we stop trying to eliminate conflict and instead ask, how can we do conflict better?
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This is Hidden Brain, I'm Shankar Vedantam. No matter how hard we try to avoid them, conflicts are everywhere. Kids cobble over breakfast at the kitchen table. Colleagues bicker in a team meeting. Nations clash across the globe. For many of us, our first impulse when it comes to conflict is to ask, "How can I shut it down? How can I resolve it?" This impulse makes sense. Conflict is uncomfortable and unpleasant. It produces hurt and animosity. It can destroy relationships. But sometimes, the roots of antagonism and anger are so deeply entrenched that avoiding conflict isn't possible and trying to reach a happy place of agreement and love isn't realistic. Increasingly, psychological research is taking a different approach to discord with profound implications for disputes big and small. This week on Hidden Brain, we kick off a series that we're calling Relationships 2.0. Today, what if we set aside the goal of eliminating conflict and instead ask, "How can we do conflict better?" Support for Hidden Brain comes from Liberty Mutual Insurance. Making smart decisions includes considering how to protect your car and home and how much you're paying to ensure them. Liberty Mutual customizes your car and home insurance to save you money because when you've worked hard for something, choosing insurance should be easy. Start your quote at libertymutual.com Support for Hidden Brain comes from Air France. Air France business cabin offers comfort throughout the journey with priority check-in, boarding and lounge access. On board, enjoy menus from renowned French chefs, wines and champagne selected by Assamelier and free high-speed Wi-Fi. When it's time to rest, settle into a fully-adjustable life-flat bed with added mattress comfort. The art of travel, elevated because Air France business cabin goes further in every detail to make your journey exceptional. Support for Hidden Brain comes from Land Rover. Even the boldest journey starts small with a single decision to go somewhere new. Purpose-built and courage-driven, the Defender 110 combines on-road presence with off-road capability. It looks tough because it is with a raised hood and an exterior engineered for durability. Inside, capability meets comfort with seating for five and the option for seven plus refined finishes and thoughtful design. The Defender event is on now. Explore enhanced offers at LandroverUSA.com Think back to the last time you found yourself in an argument with someone. It might have been over something trivial, like a parking spot on a crowded street or it might have been serious, like the best path forward for a company or a marriage. Unless you're a very special human being, you likely found yourself getting hot under the collar. You may have felt the other side was being unreasonable, perhaps deliberately so. At Harvard University, psychologist Julia Minson studies the psychology of disagreement. In recent years, she has developed some surprisingly simple but powerful techniques to help people trapped in conflict
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When it comes to conflict, most of us just want to shut it down. But psychological research is increasingly taking a different approach to discord, with profound implications for disputes big and small. This week, we kick off our Relationships 2.0 series by asking: what if we stop trying to eliminate conflict and instead ask, how can we do conflict better?